Fear and Vulnerability

Participant: I’m a singer and I do theater and I teach voice. I encounter a lot of fear.

Bashar: What do you learn by encountering that fear? What do you learn about yourself?

Participant: Well, I think that I’ve learned as I’m feeling right now fear that I’m afraid to be vulnerable.

Bashar: Oh, well then do me a favor. All right. Okay. Define vulnerability. While you are pondering that, I’ll give you a few moments. All right. Let me remind each and every one of you and you as well that all the fear you face in life, all the fear you encounter in life is never the product of the situation itself. It is the product of your definition of the situation.

So define vulnerability and you’ll understand why you’re afraid. What kind of a definition do you have of vulnerability?

Participant: It has to do with being the victim. A victim. Yes. I’m exposed. I’m open to attack. I can be destroyed. Oh, scary.

Bashar: All right. I’ll go along with you. When you think of it that way, when that’s your definition of vulnerability, yes, it’s very scary. I’m not surprised you are afraid. Now, if you are willing to exercise your imagination on the other, as you say, side of the coin, give me a positive definition of vulnerability.

Participant: To be an open channel.

Bashar: To be an open channel. All right. Very good. Now, in being an open channel, does that mean that you are plugging into the power of infinite creation? Yes. And does that mean therefore that in plugging into the power of infinite creation you are supported by the flow of infinite creation? And that therefore you know you are absolutely eternal and absolutely infinite. Yeah. All right. Now out of the two definitions you have given me which one do you prefer?

Participant: All right. All right.

Bashar: Now we have established that you prefer the positive definition of vulnerability. Now if you are willing, will you answer another question? Oh, thank you so much.

What definition of reality do you have that would allow you to believe that it is not simply a matter of knowing you have made a positive choice and leaving it at that? What definition do you carry within you that says it is not simple to know that you don’t have to worry about the negative definition because that’s not the definition of reality you prefer? What definition do you have that makes it difficult to realize that you can simply have the life you want because you say so?

What makes you think that the negative definition is more likely to occur than the positive one? What definition of life do you have that makes it seem as if the positive definition is too good to be true?

You don’t have to answer me now, but the idea simply is always, always, always when you determine what the definition is of the life you prefer to have and there still seems to be something that quote unquote prevents you from having the positive manifestation, then realize you can always backtrack to another definition that prevents you from realizing that it is simply a matter of choosing what you want and that that will stick. Okay? Because you say so. You don’t need another reason. Okay? If you say this is what I choose, then that’s what will happen.

Now, here is the key. When you make your choice, then you say, “All right, I prefer the positive definition.” Then when circumstances arise in your life that you haven’t crafted, if you know you have chosen the positive definition, don’t act as if you haven’t. Don’t fall back to the negative definition. Don’t say when something happens in your life, “Oh no, no, no, no. That’s wrong. How did that happen? That doesn’t fit.” Going back to trust all always.

But understand something and this is where many of you have a little bit of misunderstanding. We are not talking about trust as if you only use trust to create positive things in your life. You have all every single one of you without exception you have all always used infinite trust in everything you have created. This is the matter of whether you trust in positive or negative more strongly.

So, we’re not talking about using trust as if that’s something new. Oh, no. Trust. Now, I got to learn to use trust. Oh, no. That’s difficult. No, it is not something you’re not familiar with. You’ve always used trust. It is the mechanism by which you create all the reality you experience. It’s simply a matter of what you feed into the trust. Negative definitions in, negative reality out. Positive definitions in, positive reality out. And there is no other way to experience that. What you put out is what you get back. That’s it. That’s the way the universe is constructed.

So allow yourself to understand. And when we say use trust, all we’re actually saying is use the same trust you’ve always used to the same degree you’ve always used it, but feed it with a positive definition and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it will therefore respond in the same way it always had. It will give you back what you have given it. Understand?

And that’s why you can understand that when you make a decision to be a positive person, nothing else has a mind of its own. It will not change against your will. It can’t. It can’t say let’s mess with her. She utterly believes in herself as a positive being and utterly believes she will have a positive manifestation. Let’s fool her. It can’t do that unless you give it the power to play that game in your own self-created unconscious mind. But you create that with a belief. You say, “Go ahead, fool me. I give you power to sneak up on me and change my mind.” But that’s a game you’re playing all of you because you have been taught that you have an unconscious mind. You don’t. You are a conscious being. Even if you are using 90% of your consciousness to make yourself believe you’re only using 10, you’re still using it all to play the game. You’re always a 100% conscious being. Even when it seems like you’re out of control, you’re controlling the creation of that situation. It’s up to you to understand that you’re always in control.

So once you know the choice you have made then when certain circumstances arise in your life just because they may look the same as the circumstances that before you would have labeled negative don’t label them negative anymore just because they look the same appearance on the surface means nothing. Situations do not have built-in meaning. They are empty, neutral, blank. You fill them up with the meaning you believe in most strongly. The meaning you fill them up with is the effect you get out of them.

So when something happens in your life, don’t become the old you and say, “Oh, this has no business being in my life.” Say, “I know I am a new person. I know I have chosen to be a positive person. Therefore, no matter what this looks like, I know it’s happening for a positive reason.” Look for the positive meaning. Give it a positive meaning. You’ll get a positive effect.

Even if another individual who comes into your life actually has a consciously negative intention toward you, if you have attracted it into your life, you are only going to get a positive result out of it. Because if you know you’re operating in a positive frequency, that’s the only effect you can have in your life. It is not physically, mechanically possible to have an effect that you are not the vibration of.

You do not need me to create the interaction between us. You are creating this interaction on your end by yourself.

Anytime you feel the need to feel the vibration of this interaction again, create it whenever you wish. You will tap into the level of energy that you think we represent. But what you will be doing is tapping into your own version of the same level we exist upon. And you will be having the dialogue with yourself, which is in a sense what you’re doing right now anyway.

Music, Travel, and Technology

Participant: I really love playing music and I love traveling. So I’ve decided that I’m going to be supported for playing music and traveling. Little Mr. Minister.

You had talked about some beings that will be incarnating now that are from a quote different culture that have having some connection with our tourists if they will be helping to bring some of that technology out.

Bashar: none of you are original to your planet anyway.

But yet they will forget less and remember more. Can we maybe expect some of that technology to be coming through in the coming decades? Oh yes. But do not wait for them to do it. If you are interested in that idea, explore it from your own point of view. For do understand that everything is a matter of vibration. Traveling in space is traveling within. And much of the idea of the quote unquote technology of our spacecraft is very much connected to the idea of harmonic.

Asker: I have a great appreciation for the healing aspect of music and that’s a thing that I’m interested in.

Bashar: The reason it’s healed is because you kind of create harmonics that are representative of the primal flow of existence. And when individuals are exposed to that particular bubble or atmosphere or vibratory frequency, they can learn to match it. As they match it, they then blend in and balance with the prime harmonic of creation. And in that state, no disease of any type can exist.

Creating Excitement in the Present

Participant: I just want to say that I do believe that we create our own reality. Oh, thank you very much. Now, what about taking anything that I’m doing and deciding that that’s what excites me the most? Can I create that?

Bashar: At any given moment, you can understand that whatever it is that’s going on in your life right now is the most important thing of all or something else would be happening. So, you can get excited about that.

Being excited about what’s going on in your life at this very moment means you are willing to be aware that what is going on is what needs to be going on because it serves you. Even if what is going on in your life right now is something that you will decide to change. Knowing that it is the most exciting thing right now, knowing that it is what belongs in your life right now means you’re going to get the most out of it. And getting the most out of it is what’s going to give you the ability to know how to change it most quickly and most easily into what you prefer it to be.

So even if you are creating something right now that you don’t really prefer in your life, by diving into it and living in it in the moment, in the present, you will then extract from it the knowledge and information you need to be able to transform it into what you really prefer it to be more quickly than if you deny that what’s going on in your life right now has no business being there.

You can be excited about being in the moment about everything that’s in your life and at the same time you can simply ask yourself at any given moment out of all the things I could be doing out of all the things I could be acting on right now what is the most exciting thing I could be doing with integrity do it if something comes up do it moment to moment to moment even if you have an idea in your mind of some particular shall we say or object that is really the most exciting thing you can think of to do. If you don’t immediately see a way to do it, if you don’t immediately see an avenue that would allow you to act on it, then the same answer is the key. Act upon whatever you are capable of acting on with full integrity and full excitement right now. And it will lead you into the circumstances to give you the ability to be able to act upon the other thing that excited you that you couldn’t act on before because all excitement is a thread and it leads to all other excitement and it always expands and it always grows in more and more exciting ways.

Hearing Voices

Participant: I hear voices.. they’re not coming from bodies in my mind.

Bashar: There really isn’t one. There isn’t any difference.

The idea of as you say hearing voices as you mean it anyway as you perceive you mean it is analogous to what we were talking about earlier to another individual that is seeing things that aren’t there. You have increased like many of you sensitivity to different vibratory states of existence which means you will be able to see and hear things you could not see and hear before. You are now being more aware not only of being more in communication to other levels of consciousness, but you are more aware of being more in communication with other levels of your own consciousness.

You are hearing your internal dialogue to different levels you did not know you had. You are allowing yourself to come together by discussing with yourself who you really want to be. And you are sensitive to other guides and other dimensions of consciousness that are in that sense whispering suggestions to you about things you could choose to be. But the choice is up to you about what you pay attention to.

This is something that is far more common now upon your planet than it ever has been. But it has always existed. There’s always been some individuals with some degree of sensitivity to understand you can hear other levels of consciousness even if they are not physical. All you have to do is listen in the proper way. That’s all. The only reason in fact that most of you have not been able to hear those other things is because you have filtered them out.

Do understand one very important thing. Many of you have been taught to believe that your physical senses are windows and doorways through which information floods and pours through. Not really. Your senses are actually more filters than windows. They keep out 99.9% of the reality around you and allow you to only perceive what your belief system says you ought to be perceiving. Your senses are not really perceivers as much as they are filters. So now that you are dropping some of the old definitions of what you ought to and ought not to be perceiving, your filters are filtering out less. So you are aware of more communication and information that is going on around you in many different levels. You understand? This is something that is coming far more common upon your planet now.

It is almost in all cases the very same thing. The voices you are hearing the quote unquote I use the term very loosely imaginary friends many of you have as children that are very real.

A Channeler’s Path

Participant: I have a great interest in channeling because I began to channel myself some months ago. And so I not only bring myself here, but I also bring my channel.

Bashar: You are technically speaking the channel.

Participant: This is so I am bringing the one from my channel whose name he says that we may call him Amorita. And he sends you his greetings.

Bashar: Always always returned and reflected. Yes, indeed.

Participant: My question to you has to do with the fact that I myself am a healer and a teacher in my own right and I heal and teach by awakening the ability to heal themselves and teach themselves. Yes indeed. And I find that I’m also actively involved in this partnership with this channel and we have similar goals which is we wish to assist as many humans as possible with becoming of course because these things are always made by agreement on both sides. Yes indeed. What I want to know is do you have anything to say to me as a channel as a channeler who is involved in my own work as well as in this project. Do you have any words of assistance or guidance?

Bashar: Only that you trust that the more unconditionally you love and the more willing you are to be of service in that way, the more you will be served and the more you will expand in all the ways you exactly and precisely need to act as the channeler. Don’t forget you have a life of your own as well. And always know that no consciousness and no entity will ever ever ever ever expect that you should serve at the expense of yourself.

Participant: Yes indeed I’m aware of these things and you do mention love. Part of my focus in my work the heart of my work is unconditional love and the message that I bring is universal love of course and so this is something that we resonate with together. Can you give me any practical advice for how to continue to develop my own life and my own work as well as to bring through what it is that Marita has to do here as fully as possible?

Bashar: Well, you can perhaps pay attention to what is said through you and follow it.

Participant: Ah, and follow it. I do pay attention to this. Do you follow it?

Bashar: Not always. All right. Remember that you are a physical being or have chosen to be in a physical world. Physical action is the key. Yes.

Participant: How can I best motivate myself to physical action?

Bashar: If you truly believe that your physical action would really bring you the ecstasy you desired, what other motivation would you need? Understand? Yes, indeed. Is that sufficient? I guess it is. Thank you very much.

Bashar: Our unconditional love to you and your willingness to be of service and perhaps simply for all of you. Remember again the basic definition of any channeling is simply doing what you really love to do. That’s all it is. Any creative expression that is performed without doubt, without worry, in complete positive trust.

Participant: This is my experience. Thank you for reflecting that light and being willing to be an obvious mirror.

Bashar: Are you paying attention to your dream life as well?

Participant: To a certain extent I am. Do you have any practical suggestions for how I can do that more or do that more clearly?

Bashar: Do you have a particular, shall we say, chord or harmonic that you could either play and or hum to yourself that vibrates and resonates within you in a particularly pleasing way? Then when you are laying down to rest for the next, shall we say at least three nights of your time, resonate this harmonic to yourself, quote unquote, lull yourself into the dream state and see if you have not opened up a few more doorways through which some information can come that would be of benefit to you.

A Lump on the Hand

Participant: I have a lump that’s been growing on my hand for the last 2 years. I didn’t want a medical solution if I could handle it without a medical.

Bashar: Did you get a medical diagnosis?

Participant: No. I didn’t want to hear that I’d have to have surgery.

Bashar: Why do you not want to hear that idea? Not that it necessarily must play out that way, but why would you not want to hear the idea?

Participant: I feel like I should do it.

Bashar: Oh, why? Just because you hear it, why does that mean you should do it? While you are pondering that, allow us to continue.

You see, the idea is to simply recognize that as a being in the society in which you live, you may have many ingrained belief systems that are stronger than other belief systems.

At least if you give yourself the opportunity to follow what may be the strongest belief system within you now you can at least show yourself what following that belief system will reflect back to you for you to deal with in terms of information. Then you can decide how you will handle what your ingrained belief system has already told you. Then you can decide to change that belief system.

Be honest. Do you think it is actually more likely that the circumstance can be transformed through physiological surgery or through your own mentality?

Participant: I think that’s where I got stuck.

Bashar: No. All right. Are you saying that you believe that it is of a greater likelihood that it can be handled physically instead of what you call mentally?

Participant: Well, I believe it could be removed physically. Yes. No doubt about that. But whether that would be the end of it, that’s what. Oh, whether that would be the end. I don’t know what’s inside. Don’t know what’s inside.

Bashar: All right. What’s inside you? What are your aspirations and your dreams and your desires? What’s inside you? Are you at any time ever afraid to find out what’s inside you?

Participant: I didn’t say that.

Bashar: Oh, all right. I’m not suggesting that you are. I’m just asking you a question. Now, do you believe or not that there might be things that could be in your terminology lurking inside you that could surprise you in negative way?

Participant: In the love. Yes. In the love.

Bashar: All right. Then perhaps shall we look at it this way? Let’s assume that there were doubts within you at one time spread throughout. Let’s assume that you decided, “All right, well, I’d like to get all of these doubts front and center where I can see them all at once. How about if I coales them into a lump? How do I bring them all to the forefront right in front of my vision all the time? I will know by having created that concentrated symbol that they will not be running around half-hazardly within me, but will always be what I have my eye on.”

Now, now, now, now. All right, there they all are. All the doubts, all the uncertainty in that one concentrated place. Out. Now that they’re all there, how to transform them completely quote unquote out of my reality? Well, with your imagination, here is our suggestion. With your imagination in what you would call relaxed, open breathing fully state of meditative bliss. Dive into that lump with your imagination. Probe it, examine it, x-ray it with your imagination. Discover what ideas or doubts might be represented by that concentration.

Examine them one at a time. Let them come up. Examine it. Deal with it. Integrate it. Transform it. The next one, the next one, the next one, and the next one until you diminish the lump by having examined all the reasons, all the concentrated reasons for why it would exist. When you have done that, you will be deflating it, melting it, dissolving the whole idea. Understand?

Now, if in any of those examinations you discover that the strongest belief that sticks with you is the idea that it is far more easily physically taken care of than in your terms energetically taken care of, then trust your belief system. As we have said, there is nothing wrong with acting in a physical way. It is just as valid as anything else. Do not think yourself the poorer person because you cannot handle it metaphysically. Physical reality is just as spiritual.

Yes, you are learning to transform. Yes, you are learning that you create your own reality. Yes, you are learning to change things with your awareness alone. But if you in all honesty and your self-examination discover that the strongest beliefs within you still are ones that are physically rooted, then follow them. That is the path of least resistance. And doing that, acknowledging that that might be your strongest belief is actually going with the flow of your strongest awareness. That’s truly being honest with your belief system and working with it, not against it.

But paradoxically, sometimes you will find that simply by owning up to what you have feared might be your strongest belief will be in and of itself enough to create an instantaneous transformation. Just the owning up. Understand? Just the facing of what you fear to find in that revelation of concentrated dust. Examine it. Be your own x-ray machine. Explore and explore and you can dissolve it. But at any moment be honest with yourself about your strongest belief. Own up to it and that will cause the greatest change. Understand the balance is change. Yes.

Remember this as well. And again not meaning to say this in order to force you to think that physical reality somehow is something you should run away from. But remember, physical reality is only what you dream it to be. You are dreaming right now. Literally, you’re all having a dream right now. And dream reality is real. Physical reality, dream reality are different aspects of the same one existence that you are.

What you are learning to do in this transformational age is cease to have as much differentiation between the idea, the notion, the definition of physical reality, non-physical reality. As soon as you dissolve that definitional barrier, then you will begin to find that just as you can do in your dream reality, anything at all can be manifest in your physical reality because it is only a dream. The only difference between what you call your physical reality, your dream reality is that the physical dream contains a definition of solidity. And your dream reality doesn’t have to. But your physical reality doesn’t have to either.

Abundance and Doing What Excites You

Participant: Can you tell me how I might have more fun all the time?

Bashar: Yes, I can. Oh, good. Of course, it’s up to you as to whether or not you create it.

Participant: I’m trying, but it works the opposite.

Bashar: Trying. Don’t try. Trying isn’t doing it. I try every day. Why try? I just said don’t try. If you try, you’re not doing. If you do, you don’t have to try. Trying is not the doing of the thing. And all the trying that you do is only the doing of trying and not the doing of the thing you say you want to do.

Now, you have heard in the conversations we have had with other individuals, one of the primary questions we ask many of you. Are you at every given moment doing the thing that excites you the most to do or not?

Participant: No.

Bashar: Why not?

Participant: Never.

Bashar: Why have all these responsibilities?

Participant: More responsibilities. You got to be rich to do what I’m going.

Bashar: I beg your pardon. I need to be rich. I beg your pardon. Rich. I beg your pardon. You see, I am becoming more selectively third density deaf. I can no longer hear things that are simply definitions that are not a part of my reality. Define rich.

Participant: Let’s see. A lot of cash.

Bashar: A lot of cash. Why is that your definition of being rich? Because I will give you a little bit of a hint. Define abundance.

Participant: That’s it.

Bashar: Why? Well, because you have been taught that that’s what it is.

Participant: Well, because if I had it, if I wanted to travel, do all these interesting, fun things. Yes. I could just do them with my family. Yes. May I ask you a question? Yes. You’re sure? Well, thank you. Want to be sure it’s all right for me to ask you a question? Do you know, are you aware on any level of any individual in any circumstances anywhere on your planet that travels without having a lot of money to do so?

Participant: Oh, sure. Oh, sure. Who? And why? And how do they do it? Well, usually they have the time to do it. But you’re caught in the economics of making all this abundance so that you can then travel or you know, not just travel. I mean, if you want to get up in the morning and do your thing instead of…

Bashar: You’re not answering my question. Do you know of individuals that do the type of traveling you say it would expect you to do and don’t need the money to do it?

Participant: No. You’re not? No, I’m not aware of them.

Bashar: Oh, all right. I’ll give you one suggestion. Okay. Now, I’m not saying you have to do it this way, but pay attention. There are individuals that you call writers. Yes. Mhm. And sometimes they are sent on what? Assignments around the world. They don’t pay for a thing. They go everywhere and are very excited about it. They don’t pay for a thing. Now, that’s one way. So, all we’re telling you is that if you’re aware that there is one way someone has done it, there are other ways to do it.

Perhaps what is confusing you is the following idea. That your definition of abundance only means money. I am not in any way, shape or form invalidating money on your planet. It is one of the way to represent abundance. Only one. There are many ways to represent abundance. Again, what may be confusing is that you have not been given an appropriate definition of the word abundance. Would you like ours?

Participant: Are you sure? Uhhuh. Thank you. Just checking.

Bashar: Abundance, as you say, stop thought. The ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it. Period. Hey, he didn’t say anything about money in there. He didn’t say much of anything at all in there. That’s a very open definition. Is that all there is to it? What was that definition again, my sir?

Abundance. Not stop. The definition is as follows. The ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it. Period.

Now, let me ask you another question. I like asking questions. Something I’ve learned from all of you. If someone were to come along and say to you, “You know, I have noticed that you do this particular type of thing. I need someone to do that particular type of thing. And in exchange for you doing that particular type of thing, I will support you in traveling here and traveling there and traveling there so that you can do your particular type of thing here and there and there.” Doesn’t that excite you?

Participant: They say, “Well, I want to travel on vacation. I don’t want to work.”

Bashar: All right, one more time. First of all, let’s start at the beginning. Do you have an idea of a thing, a service, a creative expression of any type? That is the most exciting thing you can think of to do.

Participant: Yeah.

Bashar: What?

Participant: Well, I like to create things. Like what? I like to paint and draw. Painting. Design. Nice. These things you enjoy. Yeah. Are these type of things the most exciting type of things that you can imagine doing? Is this the idea of the expression of the pinnacle of your creative ability?

Participant: Yeah. I mean, I would rather have that kind of career than the ones I’m doing.

Bashar: Thank you. Therefore, if you were doing that type of work in some other place on your planet, would it really seem like work or would it really seem like a vacation?

Participant: Might seem like a vacation. Might seem like a vacation. Work. Ah, yes, I understand that. But you see, that’s the whole point. The only reason you are not giving yourself an opportunity to expand yourself in the way you say you desire to is because you’re not doing what you’re all about. Is because you are not making your love your career. Because you are like many individuals on your planet have thinking that you have to do this and you have to do that before you can do what you really are excited about doing.

Not ever having been taught that what really excites you, if you do it with full conviction, will support you in the manner to which you wish to be accustomed.

Participant: Sounds good. Yes, it does. And it works that simply. Are you willing to believe it?

Participant: My husband probably wouldn’t, but I would.

Bashar: Could I ask you about him? But you’ll have his opinion. So, can I ask you one other question? Answer mine first. What was it? Are you willing to believe it’s that simple? Oh, yes. Oh, all right. Thank you. What’s your question?

Participant: On that spaceship, I mean, can any of us or…

Bashar: There are appropriate timings to certain things. Always in your dream reality. Yes. I see flashing lights. Do you know what that is? It will be different things at different times. Sometimes just an increased sensitivity to other consciousness or other symbolic ideas being created in your reality to refer you to the fact that you are looking through new doorways and seeing other things. It will not always be a quote unquote spacecraft as colloquially called by your planet.

Participant: I don’t know what it is. Sometimes it’s so strong it just startles me.

Bashar: It’s all right. Allow you to feel like you want to do when you experience it.

Participant: It feels like I’ll be thinking in a certain direction. It feels like some kind of communication or it’s like so striking.

Bashar: What type of directions do you find that you’re usually thinking in when you have the experience happen?

Participant: Usually of people. People in what way? Somebody that I had an association with before. All right. Sometimes I’ll be thinking about that person and I’ll have my eyes closed and striking flashing lights.

Bashar: What you are experiencing to some degree is the electromagnetic interconnectedness of all of your mass mentality. You are recognizing your telempathic connection to other individuals and you are seeing in a sense the actual communication identification vibration going on between you. You are seeing the spark that bridges the synaptic gap between you and them.

Participant: Can they work is not always do they interpret it in the same way. Not always do they understand it physically. Sometimes will allow it to come out in their dream state when they are more relaxed as a consciousness.

Bashar: Understand? But most importantly, remember when something excites you more than any other thing, it tells you three things. One, it excites you because it is most who you are. Two, because it is most who you are. It is the thing you will be able to do in life most effortlessly. And remember, abundance simply means you will have the ability to really do what you need to do when you need to do it in the way that represents the level, the degree you are being the idea you prefer to be.

If you are excited about being an artist that doesn’t really need to expand any further than your own backyard, that’s where you’ll be. If however you are very excited about being an artist on the level where you want impact and you want communication and you want dispersement of the idea of the vibration of your sharing and your artistry and your creativity, then that level of existence will attract all the opportunity coincidentally into your life that will allow you to go as you say hither and thither and yon without ever having to plan to do so.

Let me give you an example very close to home. The physical channel before you understand that the physical channel before you simply in taking up the love of doing the channeling, the agreement he has made with us to do these channelings has traveled far more than he ever thought possible within the course of the last four years of his life and has never planned to go anywhere. Understand? Are you getting the picture? Yeah.

It automatically provides the conduit for where you need to be to express the idea on whatever level you’re willing to express it. The circumstances and opportunities provide themselves and present themselves in your life automatically without even trying. The details take care of themselves.

Participant: Thank you. You don’t have to try so hard. Thank you.

Bashar: It is easiest to be who you are. The only time you get tired and the only time you have to sigh is to be who you’re not. So relax all of you.

Attracting a Relationship

Participant: I wanted to ask you about having a man in my life. I have a very good life, but I would like to have a man in my life to share it with.

Bashar: Do you need the relationship to be complete?

Participant: Sometimes I get very lonely. And I would like stuff. I don’t like cooking just for myself or being home in the evenings by myself. I’d like somebody to talk to, someone to share my experiences with. And I think a man would be a very nice company. I just would like to have one.

Bashar: All right. But then why do you not simply in that sense use their sensitivity to attract yourselves to the vibrational individual that you can then simply walk up to and say, “You know, I would love to have a conversation in my home tonight. Would you like to come home and have a conversation?”

Participant: That sounds very easy, but it’s just not something I can do.

Bashar: Oh, why?

Participant: Well, first of all, I haven’t seen any men that I would like to invite them to my house to have conversation.

Bashar: Oh, I see. Why not?

Participant: Most of the men I come in contact with are married. Are they too young or too old? I don’t meet any men that are my age that are single. Not attached. Not attached to a female. Not spoken for.

Bashar: Oh, I understand. I’m glad do understand that our civilization has completely different definitions about this idea. All right. Are you able to carry on a comfortable and equal conversation with the masculine half of yourself? How do you feel about your own masculine side? How do you feel about your own feminine side?

Participant: Are you comfortable with either of those sides? Yes, I think so.

Bashar: Which with my female side? Are you comfortable with your masculine side?

Participant: Probably not.

Bashar: Why not? What is the definition of your masculine side?

Participant: I think probably overbearing. Demanding. And controlling.

Bashar: Cool. Is it any wonder you’re not attracting a reflection of that? If that’s your definition of the masculine energy, why would you want to attract that?

Participant: Up until now, I haven’t wanted to.

Bashar: Well, you got exactly what you wanted then, didn’t you? Yeah, change the definitions of what your own masculine energy is so you can attract someone who is more reflective and representative of your new definition and it will be no problem at all. Understand. Yeah. Is this helping you?

Always the first relationship is with you and yourself in the polarities you have created yourself to be. Be on equal terms with the polarity of your own being. Clarify the definitions of what the polarities of your own beings, female and male, within you and that will allow you to determine what reflections and representations you attract into your life at what particular timings you attract them. Understand?

Participant: Yes, it does.

Bashar: Now not that this immediately necessarily applies exactly to you but just because you have touched upon the subject let us lay another foundation for some other individuals who may be wondering about this idea. Many of you have talked about oh what you call you know soulmates. When am I going to find my soulmate? Where is he? I know that if I could only find my soulmate that ideal mate then everything would be just wonderful. Until then, I think I’ll wait. Life will not be complete without the soulmate. Where or where is she?

But you see, many times the idea simply is that because you create your reality with the strongest belief, if you do believe you are incomplete without the other individuals, you will usually wind up only attracting individuals to reflect your belief in your own incompleteness. When you know you are a relationship under yourself, complete that doesn’t mean you won’t change or grow but complete as you are sufficient under yourself with the idea of your polarity. Then as you beam and radiate on that level on that frequency then you stand the greatest opportunity of attracting someone to reflect that assurance that equality that radiance back to you as an equal also.

Now again, we are not saying this is specific to the case, but much of the definitions in your society about what relationships ought to be is what colors your ability to allow relationships to be what they are for. So sometimes you may impose upon yourself or on another person an expectation about what you think the relationship should appear like rather than allowing them to happen shall we say in a more natural way. Sometimes those expectations in of themselves will actually short circuit the ability to attract an individual because it’s not actually what serves you best in the growth patterns you have decided to experience in your physical life.

So first of all we are not saying again it must be this way but first of all recognize that you can soften to some degree your definition about how old how attached a male needs to be to at least converse with you as an equal. For there are many things you might learn from other individuals, no matter what their situations are, that can serve you as you can serve them in many ways. Relaxing those definitions sometimes is what then allows an individual or individuals, but it does not have to be singular, to come into your life to represent the expansion of your definition of what you’re capable of attracting.

So, first step in our suggestion as we have discussed is to simply be in touch with the clearest definition of your own masculine side. However you regard that portion of yourself is usually going to be how that exteriorized version appears or does not appear in your life. If you have a definition of the masculine side that is relatively negative, then no matter how much you say you want to attract a masculine representation in your life, if that’s what you really believe it to be and it is more overridingly that you don’t want those qualities in your life, if you believe that those qualities must automatically come with the man you attract, you’ll never attract one.

So understand once again blend and bow the definitions of both the feminine and the masculine and assume that you can attract a representation of that blend and bow then you win. All right. Yes. Yes. Thank you. It is only the fear again and the definition that keeps anything at bay in your life.

Weight and Body Image

Participant: I wanted to know how I can lose my weight and keep it off. I lose weight and gain quite fat.

Bashar: All right. Now, we will touch on many of the reasons, but there’s a whole number of reasons for the creation of what you call weight, physical weight in your reality. A number of reasons. We will allow you in hearing this gamut of reasons to decide which are applicable to you. In understanding which is applicable to you, you can then understand the reasons for why you have created it. And understanding the reasons for why you have created it, then if you want to, you can change.

Idea number one. Many individuals will assume that they in order to handle more of the energy they are now feeling in their lives will assume that the natural state of their body will not be able to handle that much energy. So they will add mass as a buffer to be able to handle what they perceive or label to be extra energy. One reason.

Another sometimes is dealing with things that the majority of your society thinks are quote unquote airy subjects. You will then to compensate for their judgment of you for their invalidation add more weight to appear more stable and grounded. That’s another reason.

Number three, sometimes it may serve you because you may serve as a center of interaction for many different individuals in life and they come to you for certain kinds of benefit, certain kinds of service. Because of the labels your society puts on the notion of nurturing being that there is more than enough to go around for everyone. Sometimes individuals will take on a comfortable appearance. Sometimes what may be called a motherly nurturing appearance in that sense by adding weight. So that individual know I can rest on you. I can rely on you. There’s more than enough to go around. You are a very nurturing source. And by seeing the extra way I am attracted to understanding that you are functioning in that way in being of service as a reflection so that many people can come to you and we will know you will not be depleted.

Third is a wonderful analogy that happens with your English language. Remember that energy is math. Math is energy. When you are doing what excites you the most in life, you flow the energy through you and out into the actions of the things that excite you. When you stop yourself from doing what excites you, you do not flow the energy, you wait to do what excites you. And the more waiting you do, the more the energy turns into mass. When you start doing the thing it excites you the most to do, then the mass converts back into energy and you stop waiting to do and start doing and then in that sense all the waiting goes away. That’s another analogy that your society has created for the idea of wait.

Number five, sometimes individuals will not want to face certain ideas and so they can create the idea of extra mass to hide so that no one will be able to really touch them in the center for there will be a barrier so to speak. In a sense it will be the filling of the aura again with mass to allow other people to know there’s no room for anyone else. This is almost exactly the opposite of the other one. The nurturing one, the one that fills the aura and let everyone know there is more than enough to go around. So there are many different ways and even perhaps many more than we have labeled. Allow your own imagination to delve into the reason.

If any of these things have touched the part of it, expand on it. If they do not seem to fulfill the notion, allow yourselves to take the cue from the way we have examined it and come up with your own ideas about why you think you have created this notion.

Also, because many of you are oriented in physiological ways, you have created also different notions of what you call metabolism. Sometimes many of you need far less sustenance in different ways than you think you need. Sometimes the idea of weight will be because individuals will in that sense consume more than they need to to replace things they think they don’t have. So it will be one way to try to get abundance in their life by feeling like they have a lot of physical materiality because they do not see it externally in their life. They will attempt to create it internally within their auric field. That’s another idea.

There are many many many reasons and many more reasons for the creation of that particular symbol in your reality just as there are many reasons for many of the symbols all of you created. Use your imagination. Get into the heart, the very center of the idea that you are and see what makes sense to you.